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New Moon in the 12th house – 7’59 ° Capricorn – December 29th, 2016 Transit

December 28, 2016 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Transits, Personal, The Lights, Abella / Leave Comment

The new Moon will be going through my 12th house on December 29th, 2016.

I didn’t think much of it before – nothing much seemed to happen in there before (was that really the case?!), and I thought to myself: What a waste of a new Moon. Much to do about nothing. But last night I realized what it likely means for me.

Recently I’ve been studying non-violent communication, and going through YouTube video workshops held by Marshall Rosenberg.

I had not been getting along with someone close to me. Our communication had been passive-aggressive/aggressive, and getting nowhere, but I didn’t know how to get through it. Then in comes my sociology professor. She introduced Mr. Rosenberg (my saving grace) to the class.

Oddly, there was an actual toy giraffe issue between myself and this person I had not been getting along with. They had my toy, and I wanted it back but there didn’t seem to be any good way to get it back.

Then as I was watching the YouTube videos I realized Mr. Rosenberg uses the Giraffe, and Jackal animals to describe non-violent and violent communication styles.

Ah-ha. THIS is what I need to learn. The toy was trying to tell me/us!

This toy represented my late husband, with his super long neck on his 7 foot frame. He being a Pisces — well things are getting clearer now. Moon in 12th house is like Moon in Pisces!

Personal Transits

New Moon trine Mercury Virgo 8°
Tr North node conjunct Mercury
New Moon square Uranus
New Moon sextile North node

Mundane Transits

Moon conjunct Sun – New Moon
New Moon conjunct Mercury Rx
New Moon conjunct Pluto
New Moon trine North Node
New Moon sextile Mars
New Moon sextile Neptune

Not only my personal transits, but mundane transits highlight communication as an important subject matter – so it’s no surprise then that non-violent communication should be at the forefront of my new Moon mind. And this is a time for us all to dig deep.

Lessons Learned

And in comes the new Moon in the 12th on December 29th. Maybe *finally* I will learn how to communicate non-violently. With Aries on my 3rd house cusp, if I get into any kind of petty or low brow argument – the gloves are off. But non-violent communication is right up my 9th house Libra cusp alley – especially with Jupiter inside.

THIS is it, I hope.

This New Moon in the 12th house is likely priming me to *go gently, giraffe style*. <3

Protected: Rules of Conduct: How Should I SHARE a Difference of Opinion?

May 29, 2013 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Abella, Life Skills, Philosophy, Psychology, Special Topics / Enter your password to view comments.

Mercury Pisces Retrograde 2013 / Rx: February to April Dates & Insights

February 10, 2013 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Transits, World, Planets, Signs, Methodologies, Mundane, Special Topics, Predictive, Abella / Leave Comment

Mercury is in Pisces 8° right now.
My Mercury is in Virgo at 8° (it’s in exact partile today). I am/will be experiencing a Mercury Rx Opposite Mercury transit.
And have been feeling / experiencing the effects for about a week now.

The shadow period is from the 9th to 22nd. We’re already in it! Double AND Triple check EVERYTHING.

The Retrograde (Rx) is happening between Feb 23 (19°) to March 17 (5°). And we are hardest hit, March 1 to 10th!

Mercury rules communication (spoken, phone, email, snail mail, written, etc), trade, sales, contracts, siblings, and travel (over short distances).

It’s a time when things traditionally slow down — including sales so pull out all your advertising mojo to make the sale.

This is also a great time to think about your dreams, meditate, do art, and commune with nature and animals.

When the planet Mercury appears to travel backwards, any word with re: in front of it is what we’re likely to experience — reward, renew, refresh, revisit, redo, renegotiate, redress, etc… In some cases, a retrograde is very welcome, and necessary. Similar to when rain and snow helps cleanse the land, and grow food — reigniting life — a retrograde can also cause havoc.

We are also, transit wise, experiencing Mercury Conjunct Chiron (the wounded healer, wounding healer, and where we receive wounds from others). It’s a good time to mind your words and thoughts, and keep them healing and helpful — for and to yourself and others.

I’m taking note too, and although I find myself wanting to give people a piece of my mind — I’m putting a lid on it. Oh, time to meditate.

The shadow phase, on the tail end — starts March 18th, and ends April 6th.

Godspeed!

The following music video, Retrograde, was released a couple of days ago — just on the cusp of the Mercury Rx shadow!

Commercial Manipulation: You Can’t Have It.

June 1, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Words of Wisdom / Leave Comment

Just heard on a phone commercial:

Girl says about her phone “you can’t have it”… that’s a sneaky psychological assault.

We want what we can’t have.

A Lecture is devoid of a conversation

May 18, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Abella, Life Skills / Leave Comment

A lecture is something that is devoid of a conversation.

What’s a conversation? It’s when more than one person is exchanging ideas, thoughts, feelings, and/or impressions.

If you don’t want to be lectured at, speak up — ask questions, and make comments. Don’t let the other person control what goes on unless you are enjoying the lecture.

If the person you are talking to doesn’t allow you to speak, speak to someone in the ‘help industry’ such as a crisis center, therapist, counselor, etc. so you can gain the tools and resources to assert yourself.

You never have to hear a lecture again unless you’ve agreed to such an arrangement!

Much love <3

You’re #1: Who Comes First When Communicating?

May 11, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Abella, Life Skills, Philosophy / Leave Comment

I had initiated a conversation about something I didn’t like being said to me and then the other person started talking about what they didn’t like about something I said to them a long time ago (but had never told me), skipping right over what I wanted to talk to them about.

I said to them: Hey, I’m #1 here. You’re coming in as a #2 but you’re a #1 too. If you have something to bring up, initiate a conversation about that topic (at that time) and be the #1 that you are. Otherwise, when you come in as a #2, you make me a #2 and I’m a #1 who doesn’t like going around and around in circles. And at the very least, address and acknowledge what I’m talking about, come to a resolution with me and then we can talk about your stuff.

If you have something to say, say it first. Don’t wait for the other person to open the door and follow in behind them. That’s not fair, empowering, or helpful.

Remember that you’re #1 and so are they.

ElsaElsa Board Question: Your first clue you are talking to a Pisces?

May 3, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Astrology, Special Topics / Leave Comment

The question posed on the fabulous Elsa Elsa board was: Your first clue you are talking to a Pisces?

My response:

Ivana so true about Pisces speaking to themselves and to plants, vegetables, etc. when no one is around or when people are around but no one is talking to them. :-)

I also agree with those who said a gentle, soft, watery, ethereal, not-there *quiet* look. But some Pisces, especially female Pisces, can come across very strong and direct (perhaps they have Aries in Mercury or Venus or something like that).

I also agree that ALL the mutable signs have something to do with communicating and sharing knowledge: Gemini, Sag, Virgo, Pisces…

The Wicked Smiley Face

March 9, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Abella, Life Skills / Leave Comment

I really have to stop using ‘smiley’ faces, to inject warmth when communicating sensitive matter, in personal and professional email. I think it can come off as condescending, sarcastic, and a myriad of other negative things I do not intend. In person, it disarms. In email, it arms. And it lacks a seriousness that I very much have when discussing difficult topics. Ah, the wicked smiley face!

I’m a verbal learner. I learn through …

March 2, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Uncategorized / Leave Comment

I’m a verbal learner. I learn through communicating, on-the-fly.

I’m a hard-core communicator and I have …

March 1, 2012 / By Abella Arthur / In Abella / Leave Comment

I’m a hard-core communicator and I have an upside down ‘bowl’ aspect pattern. If I didn’t love ‘sharing awesome’, I would write everything down in a personal notebook for no one else to see. Sometimes I wish I wasn’t so interested in sharing (aka teaching) — it doesn’t seem to support my personal goals.